Have you ever stopped and wished you could know what someone else is thinking? It’s no secret that women and men have been wondering for years what the other is thinking, especially when it comes to relationships.
Better yet, have you ever wondered about someone else’s intentions toward you? Well, when it comes to our Whine and Wine’s, relationships are constantly a topic of conversation, and we all love to vent about them. No matter your relationship status – married, in a commited relationship, or single and dating, we are always wondering what the other is thinking.
Relationships are complicated in this regard, because even when questions are being asked and you feel like the other is being open and honest, there is still that little bit of worry that you aren’t getting the whole truth. Maybe, your partner is sparing you the brutal details of their truth so they won’t hurt your feelings. Maybe, you are being completely honest and still get your feelings hurt because the other is looking at you as if you are hiding something. No matter what the case is, haven’t we all felt this way one time or another in our lives?
We think that all of our past experiences in dating have led us to how we act in our current relationships. If you were hurt or lied to in your past, you may carry that into a future relationship. Maybe, you had great experiences with being open and honest in the past and are currently with someone who just isn’t that way and its affecting you. No matter what your situation is, we think everyone runs across these kind of issues in their relationships. The question is: how do you get past this?
This week we want to hear what our readers think about this subject. We will be posting our opinions on these topics as well. We want to give our own advice as well as seek advice from you. Like we always say, there’s no better way to get and give advice on our everyday lives then venting and talking with friends!
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I think only time heals a broken heart. I feel there is nothing wrong with keeping your guard up, at least in the beginning of a relationship. Not to sound pessimistic but, you never no what someone’s intentions are. If we were a mind-reader would we really want to know whats going on in someone elses head? It could be scary in there. I sure wouldn’t want someone in mine…lol. You have to take every relationship as a stepping stone or learning experience. Take the good and keep it close to your heart and leave the bad at the curb.
I honestly believe that the truth does “set you free.” Whether you are in a relationship or just starting one, I truly believe that honesty is the best policy. I have learned in the past that the more truthful, sincere, and straight forward I have been in a relationship, the more my partner did the same. There were even times when I knew the truth may hurt the person I was with but I knew deep down that being honest was for the best of both of us. I also noticed that the more open I was about my feelings and everyday life the more he was as well. Once my partner started to see that I was ok with giving and hearing the truth no matter good or bad we started to open up more and in return I started to realize “What he was thinking” because he would flat out tell me. I also don’t think it’s ever too late to start having this type of honesty in a relationship either. Not trusting someone or driving yourself crazy with wondering about what the other is thinking could ruin a relationship. Things like assuming, and getting angry over assuming will get you no where as well. So stay true to yourself and the person you are with by making it a point to always be honest and don’t ever be afraid to calmly speak your mind when you are wondering or worrying about something your partner is thinking. I believe by having this type of open relationship you will learn how truly talk to each other and to deal with any issues you may have with wondering what he’s thinking. 😉
From a male perspective, relationships are all about trust. You can never really know what someone else is thinking, but if you trust that person, you know in your heart that even if he or she is thinking something that might be painful to you, they’ll never verbalize it.
Nothing is more complicated than relationships. Talking not sulking is the best way to keep a clear communication. Let’s face it, ladies, you can’t assume guys know how we feel. Don’t make it too difficult for them! Men are pretty simple and not as complicated as women. The hardest is building the trust between relationships and knowing when it’s your turn to hold the remote.
Love all the Whine and Wine articles! This one was especially brilliant! Many Woman go through these type of struggles everyday.
-Faithful Reader